When you are the guest, it's easy to feel like you have little responsibility for the success of a party. But that could not be furthest away from the truth. There are major elements to the success of any party, and one crucial element is the guests. After all, the hosts have thrown the party for those they invited. There is nothing worse than a guest who is critical of everything, is ungrateful for the effort put in the party, and who disrespect other guests.
So if you'd like to be a guest who is always invited back to the next bash, read on for tips to make you always welcome at anybody's table.
1. R.S.V.P. ASAP Respond to your invitation as soon as you know (and no later than the stated RSVP date) whether or not you can attend the party. That way your hostess can make her plans knowing the exact number of guests who will be attending.
2. Ask Your Hostess How You Can Contribute Ask if you can contribute anything to the party such as food (an appetizer, side dish or dessert), Baby sitting the day before, last minute shopping for the host...etc. The host may be relieved to have someone else take charge of something for her. However, don't bring a dish without running it by your hostess. She may be making something similar or it may clash with her carefully planned menu. Similarly, if you bring a bottle of wine as a hostess gift, you shouldn't expect it to be served with the meal. The hostess may have planned the wines to complement her meal. The same applies to other gifts.
3. Offer to Help Dress Up the Table Not a cook? Then offer to bring a table or buffet centerpiece or decorations. Once again, don't bring this if your hostess has declined the offer. She may already have her own specific decorating scheme planned. If you have the time, offer to come a little earlier than the other guests to help with pre-party setup. But if your offer is accepted, don't be late your hostess will be counting on you.
5. Be on Time Arrive at a dinner party on-time. Some hostesses plan the timing of their meals very precisely, and you wouldn't want to hold up the meal and spoil the food for everyone else.
8. Chat with the Other Guests Do your part to be friendly and make conversation with other guests. You're part of the chemistry that will make the party a success. But don't raise a conversation topic that you know will cause dissension among that particular group of guests. Save that for when you're the host in your own home.
Always take a gift to your hosts, thank them for inviting you and remember if you genuinely are a good guest, you will appreciate all the effort that has gone into every party no matter what! Keep in mind people’s ways are different!